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which is worse? - HedCold - 05-11-2006
which is worse, giving someone false hope, or just telling them there's no hope?
- Hoon - 05-11-2006
context needed
- Danked - 05-11-2006
Just tell joobies there is no hope for you two and pass on my number on to her.
- HedCold - 05-11-2006
i was thinking of it more if ethically, you had to choose one position on the matter, that whenever a situation came up big or small, you stuck to one
i was trying not to put to much into the question to try not to sway an opinion or the discussion...but if you must
what kind of situations would make you switch? are you just going for the one that would make the person feel best afterwards, or the one that would make you feel like you did the right thing, no matter the persons feelings?
- HedCold - 05-11-2006
Danked Wrote:Just tell joobies there is no hope for you two and pass on my number on to her.i hope you can put up with constant throat scratching better than i can
- Keyser Soze - 05-11-2006
honesty is always the best policy
- Goatweed - 05-11-2006
false hope is worse because at some point it'll come out & whoever recieved said false hope will probably feel a lot worse than the one who got told upfront that there's simply no hope at all.
- HedCold - 05-11-2006
Goatweed Wrote:false hope is worse because at some point it'll come out & whoever recieved said false hope will probably feel a lot worse than the one who got told upfront that there's simply no hope at all.
how much of this is to cover your ass, and how much is because you're concerned about the persons feelings eventually being hurt?
- Goatweed - 05-11-2006
HedCold Wrote:Goatweed Wrote:false hope is worse because at some point it'll come out & whoever recieved said false hope will probably feel a lot worse than the one who got told upfront that there's simply no hope at all.
how much of this is to cover your ass, and how much is because you're concerned about the persons feelings eventually being hurt?
I guess 50/50. I wouldn't want to have to feed someone bullshit to protect their feelings because if that were me I'd want to know the facts at that time, not down the line.
- GonzoStyle - 05-11-2006
False hope is worse, by far. Not just hope period but if there is no chance, I would rather just know right away, instead of wasting time, energy and that small hope. It's not even on a personal level, also business. The main thing I always told people in the mortgage business was, the greatest lesson you could ever learn was; when to kill a deal. The ame obviously goes for relationships, too many people I know just stick through it because of the small hope that maybe it will work out. Once you get that feeling that somethings amiss, start backing out.
But as far as giving someone false hope, thats just about one of the worst things anybody can do to someone.
- 2 tired 2 give N F - 05-11-2006
I agree with Gonzo and Goat. I'd rather know the facts and that's why I usually try and give the facts. I'm blunt as hell sometimes and I think that makes it hard on the person at first but then they can accept it whereas stringing along a false hope can eventually hurt them more in the end.
- Goatweed - 05-11-2006
good to hear - in that case, you'll never ever ever ever be a mod.
- Keyser Soze - 05-11-2006
there have been far worse people moderating.
- GonzoStyle - 05-11-2006
bluntsoze
- IrishAlkey - 05-11-2006
Just tell her it's never getting hard again.
- GonzoStyle - 05-11-2006
that'd involve them talking and shit
- Luna - 05-12-2006
the worst would be to give someone false hope... a stable person would be able to deal with the fact that there is no hope, accept it, regroup and move on.
- Mad - 05-12-2006
HedCold Wrote:Danked Wrote:Just tell joobies there is no hope for you two and pass on my number on to her.i hope you can put up with constant throat scratching better than i can
Does it sound like a grunting a pig?
- HedCold - 05-12-2006
oooo i used to compare it sorta like a duck quack but not, but yes a grunting pig is a solid description
- GonzoStyle - 05-12-2006
you're fucking felix unger