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Gay research - Galt - 04-20-2008
So, coincidentally, over the past few months, I've hung out with a bunch of faggots. A month ago two poofs from England came in town who were friends of friends, and I showed them around New York. they wanted to go to a cocksucker bar, and I was all "whatever, I don't care, I'll go". So I went. Long story short. It wasn't much of a deal. There was no public fornicating. No one tried to rape me. Boring, basically. But I hung out with the hellbound sodomizers the whole weekend.
Tonight, I went to birthday party to meet a girl a friend is trying to bang, and it happened that the girl was the only girl there. And she was with 12 homos. They were nice. Someone even came over and let me know that everyone was gay (and let all the flamers know that I was a normal guy who liked vagina) in case I was uncomfortable with their AIDS. We chatted and shot the shit.
But I'm a guy who is inordinately exicted to talk about things that everyone else shys away from in public: sex, religion, and politics.
For the benders, all I wanted to know was about gaydom. Now, I knew about "tops" and bottoms". But, the biggest bit of knowledge that I learned was that there are people who are "only" tops and "only" bottoms. Which to me is baffling. How can someone ONLY be a top? That's just not fair. If you are going to GIVE, you should also receive. It's kind of like oral between a guy and a girl, but even more close. At least guys can talk about how much a pussy stinks. Gays can't even use that excuse, since it's THE EXACT SAME THING.
Apparently, in match.com, or gaymatch.com or whatever they use, "top" or "bottom" is actually a standard question that is used, like "race" and "religion".
And if you are a fruit and you're at a bar, and you meet some other hot fruit, one of the first questions is "are you a top or a bottom", and if you happen to be a top, and the hot guy is another top, you just walk away since you can never be together.
Is this new news? I am completely baffled by this. How can you possible fuck someone else in the ass, and not say "fine, you can now fuck me in the ass." I don't think this subject was ever covered in Queer as Folk. I am enthralled by this whole situation.
Re: Gay research - Mad - 04-20-2008
If you're not gay, why would you give a shit about whose on top, or the bottom?
Re: Gay research - Jack - 04-20-2008
If you really stop and think about it, it probably just boils down to the same old laws of supply and demand.
I'm not an expert on the gay community so I can't definitively say that this is the case, but its my theory. Like you, I am not gay, but I do have gay friends, and curiousity has gotten the better of me and I just couldn't keep my mouth shut and had to start asking questions.
I'm guessing that the guys who only want to be tops are the same as a girl who doesn't like Anal. If its not something you enjoy, don't do it. The reason that they are able to get away with it, is the fact that being gay or bisexual still carries a stigma, even in todays society. Its hard to meet someone and determine that they are gay. Not all gay guys act feminine. One of the guys in my group of friends is gay, but unless he told you, you would never know it.
Back to the laws of supply and demand, there are the bottoms. Since they obviously enjoy getting pounded in the ass and catching more than they like doing the pounding, or pitching, they need to find someone who will provide their bodies for the deed. I'm willing to bet that bottoms are not strictly bottoms, that they will play that role and switch from time to time when they need to.
Basically, if you want something, you are willing to sacrifice to get it.
Re: Gay research - Galt - 04-20-2008
but the point is that if someone is a bottom, you'd imagine that they'd also want to be a top sometimes. Yet if a bottom happens to be dating someone who doesn't do but stuff, then he'll never get to be a top. it's not fair.
Re: Gay research - Gooch - 04-20-2008
I get your point.
Maybe sexually, they don't alter their base preference? They are either one or other. More absolutes than whimsy.
Re: Gay research - Hoon - 04-20-2008
I can totally understand that they have their preferences.
I dated a woman who loved to suck my dick but never let me eat her pussy. I don't know why. One time she got real drunk and partially passed out so I took advanatage of her and ate her pussy. It was phenominal! I wanted to eat it again and again but she wouldn't let me. She explained that she just didn't like it. It was like dangling a gravy covered carrot in front of our Jack rabbit..
So I can understand preferences and forbidden fruits as well! There are probably just as many "tops" who occasionally like being "bottoms" as there are "top exclusives" or vise versa.