Should you judge your mate on their sexual history

Gooch · 07-30-2003, 11:18 PM

Quote:You will have to deal with jealous twits who might want to fuck things up for you. It's part of human nature.

Ahhhh, sage truth there. Damn straight. Always those assholes to contend with.

As for threesome situation: You should have been more tactful. she may be more in a huff in the cavalier manner it was brought up, than finding out you have done them and want one. There's no way around it...she thinks it's a negative, and there is no argument that you can make that makes it a positive in her eyes. In fact, issue is, you are now a touch lower in her estimation, and that maybe the rub, but if you opened that pandora's box, and the top of that wooden box just crushed your cock. By further joking about it, it only dug you deeper. Find some conscience (god, look who I'm asking to find this!) :1: But,that's the only thing that will dig you out, some truth and sincerity, apologizing to put forth that notion, and it's not like you are a slut or anything (cough cough).

Question is: do you lie and say that you didn't really want that? does that lie only dig you deeper in the long run, b/c once you start doing that shit, it only catches up? Or do you face the music??? Somehow have faith that you can dig yourself out that rut with some honesty? I recommend that latter, but once a woman has made the decision not to sleep with you based on something, it takes time to change that, and no argument/debate will change that but over some time.

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Keyser Soze · 07-30-2003, 11:19 PM

she was really evil in the beginning.

Gooch · 07-30-2003, 11:20 PM

let it lie, she may come around, or be in a more hornier mood to contemplate it. mood means alot. timing is everything.

Keyser Soze · 07-30-2003, 11:23 PM

good advice, but does anyone really need to be apologetic about things they've done with people years ago, long before your currrent mate???

Gooch · 07-30-2003, 11:29 PM

logically no.

b/c you are dealing with a woman....YES.

sorry.

just my humble opinion, but, all rules go out the fuckin window.

Keyser Soze · 07-31-2003, 12:08 AM

The female always makes the rules.

The rules are subject to change at any time without prior notification.

No male can possibly know all the rules.

If the female suspects the male knows all the rules, she must immediately change some or all the rules.

The female is never wrong.

If the female is wrong, it is because of a flagrant misunderstanding which was a direct result of something the male did or said wrong.

If Rule 6 applies, the male must apologize immediately for causing the misunderstanding.

The female can change her mind at any given point in time for any reason.

The male must never change his mind without express written consent from the female.

The female has every right to be angry or upset at any time.

The male must remain calm at all times, unless the female wants him to be angry or upset.

The female must not, under any circumstances, let the male know whether or not she wants him to be angry or upset.

Any attempt by the male to document these rules could result in severe bodily harm.

If the female has PMS, all rules are null and void

PlasticMan · 07-31-2003, 05:33 AM

Don't apologize for it. Play it off exactly as what it was, something in the past.

I gotta say, though, the whole bit of "I don't know what kind of differently it make me feel." sounded like a crock of shit. She's not cool with it, so you have to acknowledge it rather than pretend you never said anything.

Apologizing would ruin any chance of ever getting her and her friend though!

crx girl · 07-31-2003, 05:42 AM

Gooch Wrote:logically no.

b/c you are dealing with a woman....YES.

sorry.

just my humble opinion, but, all rules go out the fuckin window.

it goes both ways.

my only advice, if you're gonna post an aim convo, take off the timestamp first.

Keyser Soze · 07-31-2003, 01:37 PM

are you telling me men defy logic?

Gooch · 07-31-2003, 01:43 PM

both sexes prob expect one another to correspond to their own logic, wherein lies the crux of the problem...b/c the logics/mindsets are different.

Kingpin · 08-04-2003, 12:37 AM

Are Not!!!!! :rofl:

Kingpin · 08-08-2003, 01:43 AM

Are TOO!!!!!!!!

Goatweed · 08-08-2003, 01:51 AM

:9:

Hoon · 08-08-2003, 02:33 AM

Tell her it all took place because you were out drinking and someone slipped you a Mickey.
You blackedout, had a threesome ....etc.

Then tell her this is the reason you believe in the holy spirit now.
Drinking and drugs are for evil people and your a Straight Edger, now.

Gooch · 08-08-2003, 02:11 PM

whatever happened with this, Keyser???

Keyser Soze · 08-08-2003, 03:48 PM

seems to have blown over. ixnay on the el threesome-nay.

Hoon · 08-08-2003, 08:37 PM

I had a MMF threesome once.

It wasn't all it was cracked up to be.
Even though I knew she was going to be a one nighter..
When my drunk friend we'll call 'Robbie' stumbled into bed and started kissing her...
WHILE I WAS FUCKING HER, mind you.

Instead of freaking...she didn't resist.
So...we turned the bitch inside out.

Pro
My dick is bigger than his.
Con
The thought of his naked penis being near me made my pecker go soft a few times.
Pro
I didn't have to dodge annoying phone calls from her asking me why I haven't called..
She knew she wasn't a 'keeper'.
Con
Before she left....she wanted a goodbye kiss on the same lips that earlier housed my friends penis.
Pro
I don't have to worry about either of them running their mouths about it since Robbie was engaged and she had an illigitimate kid. (She's already got 1 strike against her)
Pro
'She' accidentally left her diamond earrings in my buddies bed.
Con
Robbie's finace' found them.
Pro
Robbie's fiance' is stupid and believed his excuse.