Fu cancer

[Metalfan]

TW....there really isn't anything you can do or say that will magically make things better. When my father passed earlier this year, it was actually a blessing in disguise. He didn't have to suffer anymore and my mother didn't have to see him living without any quality of life. Just keep doing what you're doing man.

[Teenweek]

Thanks everyone. I appreciate everyone's kind words.

[Teenweek]

Well it looks like the inevitable is about to happen. She was in the hospital for like a week and was just released. Her memory is really not there. Sometimes she seems ok, but than like 5 minutes later she will have forgotten what you talk about. She needs to continue to get a shot in her stomach everyday for the rest of her life.

However, last night she found out that she has maybe 2-3 months to live. About a little over a month before our baby is born. All I can say to anyone, is that love your parents and your friends because you never know whan they will be gone. And if you are fighting with them over dumb meaningless things, try to make peace, because family is most important.

[Sweet Angel]

TW, has anyone spoken to HER about what her wishes are? What is the shot in her stomach for? Maybe she doesn't want a shot in her stomach for the rest of her life. Maybe she'd prefer to just be made comfortable and let go with what little dignity she has left.

Having seen what my mother-in-law went through, if I'm ever in that position, I would want to just be made comfortable and let me go.

I also went "funeral shopping" with my father-in-law afterwards, so I know how much that sucks too.

Good luck, stay strong, be there for your wife. You know we're here if you need us.

[Teenweek]

Well the inevitable did happen. This morning she died. Her husband tried to revive her but she was already dead. By the time I got there from work, the funeral home was putting her in a bodybag and bringing her away. I was one of the saddest things I ever saw and that includes having to leave the room when my grandfather was dying.

I want to thank everyone for their well wishes, especially Sweet Angel, Pollyanna, Peter Dragon, Metalfan and Austin for your kind words. It really meant a lot to me.

I know her suffering is over and she is in a better place now. My wife is upset but is taking it very well. The wake and the funeral will be the hardest though. We all knew it was inevitbable. We were just praying and hoping for a miracle.

A big fu to the fucking police in clifton as I was trying to rush home from my busstop, the prick pulled me over. I explained everything that happened to him. His response to me was you keep driving like that, you will kill a lot more people. The heartless fuck could not give a shit that someone very close to me just died and I was trying to rush to be with my wife.

Again thanks everyone for all the advice and kind words you have given to me. It helps more than you know. I may not know you in person, but this place is like a family and helps people pull through tough times. And for that I thank you.

[Jack]

:-( Sorry to hear that news. My thoughts are with you.

[Faceman]

This song gave comfort to someone special in my life and I hope it does the same for you and yours. Sorry for you and your wife's loss.

Diamond Rio
I Believe

Every now and then soft as breath upon my skin
I feel you come back again
And it’s like you haven’t been gone a moment from my side
Like the tears were never cried
Like the hands of time are holding you and me
And with all my heart I’m sure we’re closer than we ever were
I don’t have to hear or see, I’ve got all the proof I need
There are more than angels watching over me
I believe, I believe

Chorus
That when you die your life goes on
It doesn’t end here when you’re gone
Every soul is filled with light
It never ends and if I’m right
Our love can even reach across eternity
I believe, I believe

Forever, you’re a part of me
Forever, in the heart of me
And I’ll hold you even longer if I can
The people who don’t see the most
Say that I believe in ghosts
And if that makes me crazy, then I am
‘Cause I believe

There are more than angels watching over me
I believe, I believe

[Sweet Angel]

Teenweek, you and your wife and family are in my thoughts. You're right, she's in a better place now...better than suffering here.

The wake and funeral will be tough definitely, but it will be tough on your wife for quite some time. Just know that and try to be understanding when she acts wacky from time to time. Everyone grieves in different ways.

[JimmyBlueEyes]

God Bless Dude....my thoughts are with you and yours...it will get better...it will take time....but it will...

[Teenweek]

Thanks everybody. :thumbs-up:

[LZMF1]

my buddy that i mentioned earlier in this thread passed away 2 nights ago. :-(

[Mad]

That sucks.

[JimmyBlueEyes]

sorry man

[Teenweek]

Dude, I am really sorry.

[Metalfan]

Sorry bro :-( I'm sure its hitting you hard, make sure his family knows you're there for them as much as you can be.

[Sweet Angel]

I'm so sorry LZ. ::hugs::

[Jack]

LZ, I expressed my sorrow to you in chat last night but just wanted to let you know that I am available to talk if you need someone. AIM me or just PM me if you need to vent.

[LZMF1]

thanks guys.

[Buttmunch]

Gang, take the opportunity tonight or today to hug someone close to you, tell them you love them, and let the stupid shit slide. And that's it.....

This was good advice in the beginning. I personally think it's good advice now.

Someone close to me is in the hospital now getting a "procedure". I know he'll live, but every time he goes in, he takes a bit of my soul with him. I drove 350 miles last night just to give him a hug.

It was worth more than words can express.

LZ, I'm sure your friend knew you were there for him. I can't speak for him, but I'm sure you gave him more than you know.

Be well in that knowledge.

[LZMF1]

BM....sadly enough i was there for him more than his own brothers were.

hopefully i won't lose my temper on them at the funeral tomorrow.