12-19-2002, 06:00 AM
Sounds like you are already doing the right thing for your wife man. The only thing you can do is love and support her.
If that's in the form of telling her repeatedly that you are there for her, letting her get angry with you and just taking it simply because you know what she is dealing with, or spending long nights up with her as she tries to cope with this, then so be it.
Aside from all of that, is providing an outlet for her father should he need it. I know from talking to my father that when my mother's father had cancer (which he beat), he talked to my dad about shit he couldn't talk to my mother & grandmother about simply because he didn't want to upset them further. It is quite possible for your father in law to have feelings he may be trying to conceal in front of your wife and any siblings she may have simply because he is supposed to be "strong". If that is the case pick a subtle way to let him know that you are there to listen should he need you, day or night.
If that's in the form of telling her repeatedly that you are there for her, letting her get angry with you and just taking it simply because you know what she is dealing with, or spending long nights up with her as she tries to cope with this, then so be it.
Aside from all of that, is providing an outlet for her father should he need it. I know from talking to my father that when my mother's father had cancer (which he beat), he talked to my dad about shit he couldn't talk to my mother & grandmother about simply because he didn't want to upset them further. It is quite possible for your father in law to have feelings he may be trying to conceal in front of your wife and any siblings she may have simply because he is supposed to be "strong". If that is the case pick a subtle way to let him know that you are there to listen should he need you, day or night.