Fu cancer

diceisgod · 11-10-2002, 10:18 PM

Eat broccoli.

LyricalGomez · 11-11-2002, 02:59 AM

:lol:

GonzoStyle · 11-11-2002, 03:59 AM

Quote:he says I'm way too young for cancer....

Not for nothing, this is not a poke at you. But since when does cancer care about your age?

Jinny · 11-12-2002, 02:30 PM

True Gonzo....it's the type of cancer and where it is that puzzles him....

TheGMANN · 11-12-2002, 03:57 PM

I lost my freind Lisa in August to cancer. For awhile it looked like she was beating it....looked real good too,but it turned for the worst.

SLASH · 11-12-2002, 11:24 PM

The last few hours of my father's life, when he was dying from Lung cancer that metastisized(sp?), was pretty cool. He had the death rattle.

I wish I thought to record it at the time. Oh well, there's always mom...

JerseyThunder · 11-15-2002, 03:53 AM

Quote:I wish I thought to record it at the time. Oh well, there's always mom...

Well, my mom's going in for surgery soon. Maybe they'll fuck up and you can get that recording sooner. :thumbs-up:

Teenweek · 11-25-2002, 01:31 PM

Well I got worse news. My mother in law found out the cancer has spread to her liver. They are taking her off the chemotherapy. They said she will be put into a lottery for an experimental drug that is only approved in Japan. It is called tressa or uressa or something like that. Anyone have any idea what I am talking about.

My wife was upset most of the weekend. She knows her mother is going to die soon. What hurts her the most is that with my wife being pregnant and due in may, she thinks her mother will not be around by the time the baby comes. :disappointed:

Sweet Angel · 11-25-2002, 09:53 PM

There's an experimental cancer center in Chicago (I think) -- something with American in the name. My mother-in-law had breast cancer. She was clean up until right before her 5-year check up. When she went for that check up, they found more and it metastasized quickly. The American Cancer Society did nothing for her, but one of her doctors mentioned this place in Chicago and she tried it. For her, it was too late, but it might be worth checking into. Remember though, I'm going back about 12 years now, so the place may be gone or have changed names or something. I'll try to find out more.

Good luck. Cancer sucks.

JimmyBlueEyes · 11-26-2002, 12:07 AM

If it can help, go for it.

Teenweek · 11-26-2002, 01:03 AM

Thank you angel. any help at all is appreciated. :thumbs-up:

Sweet Angel · 11-26-2002, 02:31 AM

I just spent the last hour and a half searching the web for an alternative cancer treatment hospital in Chicago. The closest I can find is in Zion, IL. I'll PM you the link. I don't know if this is the same place though.

If my ex calls tomorrow to talk to my son, I'll see if he can remember anything else.

In the meantime, do as much research as you can, check out all the options, including alternative or holistic. Just about anything is worth a shot.

Be there for Mrs. Teenweek. You have to be strong for her now.

PeterDragon · 11-26-2002, 03:06 AM

Quote:Be there for Mrs. Teenweek. You have to be strong for her now.

The best advice.

It isn't easy to think about losing a parent, especially when a woman is expecting.

My mother passed away just before my 2nd daughter was born. She wasn't ill prior - it was surgical complications, so I didn't really have time to think about it.
It is also different for women - especially when they rely on their mother to help them with a new child.

As morbid as it may seem, you need to be prepared. Most people don't want to deal with the thought that they will die and they don't make all of their desires known. Make sure all her papers are in order. Take video of her.

and as Angel said, be there for your wife. The only thing you can really do now is be supportive.

Good luck - hopefully things will take a positive turn, even if only for a while.

SLASH · 11-26-2002, 05:01 PM

Yea, when my dad's eyes were rolling around in his head from the pain that the morphine couldn't help subside, I was there for my mother, I was REALLY there for my mother - hairy, square, door knob titties and all.

Reminiscing is fun :thumbs-up:

Goatweed · 11-26-2002, 05:27 PM

Quote:hairy, square, door knob titties and all

that is so fucking hot

JimmyBlueEyes · 12-19-2002, 12:44 AM

I just wanted to bring this topic back up top cause it is topical again. My mom has just beaten Lymphoma, the same cancer that killed Joey Ramone...so Hell YEAH!!!!!! Thank you for your time...

Teenweek · 12-19-2002, 12:55 AM

Good for you Jimmy. That's great. I have bad news. Today my mother in-law was driving and she had a blackout. She ended up hitting 2 cars and the embankment. The cops arrived and brought her to the hosppital to get checked out. She was fine physically but from a cat scan, the cancer has since moved from her liver to her brain. This may have caused her to blackout. She had some some trouble remembering things and her motor skills were not that good as she had a hard time picking up a tissue and when she tried to drink some water she dropped it. My wife and her father met her at the hospital and brought her to the police station to file a report or whatever and she had to pull over because my mother in law could not stop vomiting.

My wife has been in tears all night and I have no idea what I can say to her. I don't know what to do and I don't know what to say. She knows it is pretty much a given now her mother will be dead before may when our first child is due. She is going to the doctor tomorrow, but I just don't know. I feel like I am not being a good husband because I have nothing to say to make my wife feel any better.

I am sorry for this but this was the only way I guess I could communicate tonight as my wife fell asleep, I guess from all the stress.

Sweet Angel · 12-19-2002, 02:25 AM

There's nothing to say...no "right" thing. You just have to be there for her. Tell her "I wish there was something I could say to make you feel better, but there's not, so just know that I'm here for you." and then really BE THERE for her...no matter what time of the day or night.

Good luck. A situation like that is tough anytime, but that much worse at the holidays.

P.S. That's great news Jimmy!

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JimmyBlueEyes · 12-19-2002, 04:15 AM

Teenweek, my best advice to you is just be strong for your wife. I think being strong is the only thing that got my girlfriend thru the loss of her mom. Just be there, love her and support her. I've learned that words sometimes mean nothing. The best you can do is kiss your wife, tell her you love her and listen when she vents. This is better than anything you can actually say, aside from you telling your wife you love her. Don't be sorry, this is what this board is for, letting out all the shit in our lives. Aggravation and what not. I also suggest a few backrubs and footrubs, worked well for my girlfriend and I am with you when you say it doesn't make you feel like a good husband. Anything I tried didn't feel like it was enough, but I'm sure she'll appreciate it just as well. :bouncer: :banana:

krahzee · 12-19-2002, 06:00 AM

Sounds like you are already doing the right thing for your wife man. The only thing you can do is love and support her.

If that's in the form of telling her repeatedly that you are there for her, letting her get angry with you and just taking it simply because you know what she is dealing with, or spending long nights up with her as she tries to cope with this, then so be it.

Aside from all of that, is providing an outlet for her father should he need it. I know from talking to my father that when my mother's father had cancer (which he beat), he talked to my dad about shit he couldn't talk to my mother & grandmother about simply because he didn't want to upset them further. It is quite possible for your father in law to have feelings he may be trying to conceal in front of your wife and any siblings she may have simply because he is supposed to be "strong". If that is the case pick a subtle way to let him know that you are there to listen should he need you, day or night.