Hey Rooner I've got a book for you.

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On pages 86-87, Mustafa states: \"The [wife-]beating must never be in exaggerated, blind anger, in order to avoid serious harm [to the woman].\" He adds, \"It is forbidden to beat her on the sensitive parts of her body, such as the face, breast, abdomen, and head. Instead, she should be beaten on the arms and legs,\" using a \"rod that must not be stiff, but slim and lightweight so that no wounds, scars, or bruises are caused.\" Similarly, \"[the blows] must not be hard.\" [1]

That should be foreplay.