Is it ever ok to cheat?

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Originally posted by dru

i think people cheat cause they want variety. not that they don't love their significant other, just that they want something different everyonce in a while.

like going for cookies n cream instead of always having pistachio.

This is a situation where "what they're missing" is the variety. if you want variety, why not make it different with the person you're with. Role play, different positions, different places. Why would you go to someone else for 'variety'?

I can try to answer this with your ice cream analogy. It's because you never fulfilled your desire to sample all the flavors that peaked your interest before you settled on you favorite flavor. Commitment (marriage, bf, gf, etc...) is about settling down with the one flavor you love the most and being content to have that one flavor and none other. If you still want to vanilla after you've commited to pistachio, then maybe you shouldn't have settled and looked around some more before you did.

And as for those that wrote: 'it's okay to cheat if you're partner is okay with it', that's not cheating. That's called an Open Relationship. Cheating is when you see someone else and HE/SHE doesn't know about it.