Do you Believe in God

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God does hate divorce, but not for the reason you might think. He hates it because it hurts His children. However, sometimes you have to look beyond vows and focus on the entire picture. It probably wasn't just you and your wife that was part of the situation. There were probably children involved as well. Sometimes it is better that divorce does happen so that a couple's children do not think that is the way marriage is supposed to be (with fighting, dishonesty, adultery, etc.). If both parties are not willing to commit to a marriage that includes God and the Bible, then it quite possibly might not work out.

Been there, done that, broke the mug and burned the t-shirt. Now I have moved on. But no marriage will work without the total commitment of both parties involved, along with honesty and above all, a relationship above the children involved (i.e., no running and talking about a spouse behind the back of another spouse, this causes the child(ren) to think and be biased towards one or another parent). A marriage without God involved will work I guess, but it works a heck of a lot better with God in it.

Also there is a silver lining to most clouds if people just keep their eyes open. There are certain chain of events that happen where because of tragedy, divorce or whatever something comes out the other side that is good. I regret not playing football in high school. I know for a fact I would have been really good assuming I didn't get injured. More than likely I would have gone to a college with a football program. If that path would have been taken I would have never met my wife. My entire life for the last 10 years would have been completely altered by that one decision I would have made in high school. I am not trying to compare not playing football with something like divorce either. Maybe you will go on and meet someone else (assuming you haven't already). Maybe when you do meet that someone there is some in her/his family that, because you were there, for some reason is greatly impacted. You never know.

Or, you could have played football, and met someone better than your wife.

Is this really how we're going to look at everything? "Oh well God probably did the best thing here, but we'll never actually know, because his communication skills are sub-par"