12-22-2008, 03:04 PM
Allyson Wrote:sunshyne Wrote:Allyson, it really is up to you, but my mom changed her middle name to her maiden name so she is Barbara T****** S**********. I thought about doing that, but my maiden name was 11 letters long, my husband's mom's last name is different cause she got remarried, plus I like my husband's family better than my own most fo the time. You do realize that you marry a family, not just a guy, and if his mother makes you want to barf, you might want to think about this a little more....
Oh, I've definitely thought about it. But then I realized that a bitchy MIL (and SIL) is not worth giving up on a great relationship and I refuse to let them win. They've been talking about moving to FL so hopefully they up and leave sooner than later.
Having several states between you definately helps, my folks live in FL, and as I stated before, we don't really get along well. SO, christmas, oops, too far to drive, sorry. It definately is my husband's opinion that my mother and sister are both bitchy, so he's sort of on your side of the story.
You could change your name to his and have people call you Mrs. "K". Whatever you decide, congratualtions on getting married, and I hope its long and happy.