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Totmacher | posted on 04-18-2001 @ 7:19 PM | ||||
Psychopath Registered: Oct. 00 | ...or guys who have dealt with a similar issue. Prerequisite apologies for not being around too much lately. But on to the question. When someone you are dating doesn't smell very nice....just kidding. But seriously...I have to figure out how to deal with one thing my girlfriend has an issue with - I am about to start a doctorate in computer science, and she is about to start a master's in occupational therapy. Not to knock her major or anything, but I think mine is a little harder - that's why they pay us the big bucks, right? Well, I can't get away with saying "the reason my doctorate will only be 60 credits while your master's is 90 credits is because your major is easier", even if I think that. How to I phrase what I want to say to get myself out of the hole I dug myself in to? :) ~Totmacher~ Tot Tot Tot Ich Mache Dich Tot Tot Tot Tot Von Blut Alles Rot Tot | ||||
bluetarp | posted on 04-18-2001 @ 7:30 PM | ||||
O&A Board Regular Registered: Jan. 01 | Before I get too caught up in this, jewelry. Anyway, you must have one incredible ego, to think you need to say anything like that to a loved one. At one point in my life, I made it through one of the highest rated stressed out schools in the country (US News rated it 3rd). This did not entitle me to belittle others. If you look at it from another perspective, it may shed some light. Your course of study involves you controlling a very static environment. Hers involves an extremely dynamic one. Patients can make life difficult. She has a completely different set of skills to learn. Just because you are smart enough to do one thing, doesn't mean you would be good at her job. Express this, in your own way, and a piece of jewelry to apologize. ps, I am a guy, but needed to put in my 2 cents. Some people think I'm a psycho, everybody else knows it! This message was edited by bluetarp on 4-18-01 @ 7:37 PM | ||||
johnny hairdo | posted on 04-18-2001 @ 7:32 PM | ||||
Psychopath Registered: Sep. 00 | Anytime a girl I'm seeing is going for an easier doctorate then I am, I just tell her her ass looks fat in whatever pants she's wearing. It all seems unimportant after that. R.I.P. Joey 5/19/51-4/15/01 | ||||
Kingpin KEEPER OF THE FLAME. I have a little Wick. PROUD TO BE AN AMERICAN. | posted on 04-18-2001 @ 7:34 PM | ||||
O&A Board Regular Registered: Oct. 00 | ::KINGPIN crosses himself:: Good luck, saying that what she is doing is not as diffucult as what you are doing, man you got BIG balls. Why the competition??? If you love her and she loves you, what's the problem??? If she is the one starting the discussion, just do what I do: " Yes, dear, you're right" while truly not meaning it. Meanwhile I'll pray for your life. :) NOBODY WANTS TO BE ADOPTED BY ME!!! EVERYTHING ENDS BADLY, OTHERWISE IT WOULDN'T END. E-Mail Me | ||||
Opie696 G.O.O.F.B.A.H.G.S. Soldier of Fortune Spec Ops Division | posted on 04-18-2001 @ 7:39 PM | ||||
O&A Board Regular Registered: Feb. 01 | Can i ask u a question? why would u even consider saying this to a woman u love? Dont say it at all. And why would she even have a problem with u havin less credits? whats the big deal about that? i think wer're gonna need more info if u want help with this. IM NOT TAKIN ANYONES SHIT ANYMORE!! | ||||
Sean Cold 3:16 | posted on 04-18-2001 @ 7:43 PM | ||||
Hanger-On Registered: Jan. 70 | Well I think you nshould pull down your pants to start! Then remove the grubby pair of underoos! Now proceed to remove your fuckin head out of your ass! What are you stupid? Get On The Plank Fuck!!!!! | ||||
Totmacher | posted on 04-18-2001 @ 7:46 PM | ||||
Psychopath Registered: Oct. 00 | My response was after about 20 minutes of her complaining that my doctorate (traditionally a long program) was less credits then her master's (traditionally a shorter program). It was kind of a 'stick up for myself' thing and not a 'you are an idiot, get in the coffin' thing. Plus, it was at the end of a long day. Don't think I flaunted it, I may be emotionally retarded, but I don't want to have my balls handed to me :) I realize it wasn't the smartest thing to say, hence the call for ladies to help me out. I figure if anyone can help me bail my ass out, it's them. Tot Tot Tot Ich Mache Dich Tot Tot Tot Tot Von Blut Alles Rot Tot This message was edited by Totmacher on 4-18-01 @ 7:53 PM | ||||
Teen Tomato Boys | posted on 04-18-2001 @ 7:48 PM | ||||
Psychopath Registered: Jan. 01 | tot...tell your girl that she won't need the major if you get married...you'll make more than enough for both of you... And jewelery...dinner works as well...let her order lobster... "WHAT IS YOUR MAJOR MALFUNCTION...NUMNUTZ!!!" "Are you not entertained!?!" "We don't like you...We're just using you for good posts..." Graduates from Totmacher's infamous school of maching tots... | ||||
bluetarp | posted on 04-18-2001 @ 7:49 PM | ||||
O&A Board Regular Registered: Jan. 01 | I still stand by my previous statement, jewelry, and that was a "Yes Dear" moment. Some people think I'm a psycho, everybody else knows it! | ||||
Sean Cold 3:16 | posted on 04-18-2001 @ 7:50 PM | ||||
Hanger-On Registered: Jan. 70 | psst, tot, do not listen to these two numbnutz! If you say that she will sit at home and always get half! Now get in the fuckin coffin! Get On The Plank Fuck!!!!! | ||||
Corinthia | posted on 04-18-2001 @ 9:23 PM | ||||
O&A Board Regular Registered: Aug. 00 | Girl checkin in.. I really dont think this is an argument at all..if she wants to fight on about it, no matter what you say she is always gonna be more righter :) But seriously, you both are doing different things that require different credits..thats the end of it! I mean I could think of tons more things to argue about then who needs more credits for their courses! For instance, did you take out the garbage tonite?? ;) UFD'S "MORE GOODER" HALF E-Mail Me | ||||
Kim | posted on 04-18-2001 @ 9:47 PM | ||||
O&A Board Regular Registered: Jan. 01 | Say nothing...I wouldn't respond - no matter what you say you're going to be wrong - you didn't write the requirements for either of the programs! Tell her you love her; but, don't take the bait she's using :) AND if you'd give me the line about your course work being harder/making more money line~I'd probably beat the crap out of ya :) | ||||
rugirl | posted on 04-19-2001 @ 12:34 AM | ||||
Psychopath Registered: Aug. 00 | girl checking in - wow that was stupid. She has more credits because her major requires more diverse training, an understanidng of lots of differnt sciences, people skills ect. You have to learn one specific thing very indepth. That's the differnce. I say go with the jewerly, tell her you're sorry and you love her and don't let the argument start again cause it's not worth it neither of you can win [email protected] | ||||
FeelMyFunBags | posted on 04-19-2001 @ 12:44 AM | ||||
O&A Board Regular Registered: Jan. 01 | Girl checking in here: WOW that was really really rude of you. It sounds to me with her 90 credits she would be working a lot harder...even if your training would be more in depth. I mean I am planning on going to law school and getting my PHD, and I would never ever belittle any one I was with my trying to claim to be more intelligent than they are. I don't think you need to buy her anything to apologize, but you should definitely let her know you know you said something wrong. How I'm craving you, yeah! Every time I'm near you I always want to swallow you down I'll be right here if ya' need me In my life, I'll need you here, don't ask why I'll never disappear | ||||
crx girl Newbie! vg Y's me ugo girl Limey Mothercocker | posted on 04-19-2001 @ 5:34 AM | ||||
O&A Board Regular Registered: Oct. 00 | first of all, thank you totmacher, yours was the name i've been trying to think of all week. my point: why does everybody insist on living in this universe where men and women are two different species. there is so much talk about making sure you tell your girlfriend the right thing to make her feel better, etc... personally, if something looks bad on me, my b/f tells me. um, there's other things too, i'm sure you know what they are, but i'm too drunk right now. the fact is, we are all people, try talking to your girlfriend as an equal.. i know that's not cool and all, if you listen to dice, anyway. but, how about discussing the issue as two rational adults. just my opinion, i could be wrong. An invasion of armies can be resisted, but not an idea whose time has come. --Victor Hugo i have amicably adopted arpikarhu and dxguy18 is my bitch [email protected] | ||||
Sephiroth | posted on 04-19-2001 @ 7:12 AM | ||||
O&A Board Regular Registered: Dec. 00 | Sacrifice yourself upon the alter of Humiliation and apologize until you are out of breath. That, or see how long you can go without any. Good luck man. "In my veins courses the blood of the ancients... I am one of the rightful heirs to this planet!" "What I have shown you is reality. What you remember, that is the illusion."-Sephiroth "Jesus Christ buddy, you are WHITE! Do you live underground or something?"- Vos Have any anime questions? Send me a E-mail or IM me at AIM: Hitokiri182 Go to foundry Chat, home of NUDE TEEN Chatters I am Master Shredder....I am Ninja Master | ||||
SNAKEBITE | posted on 04-19-2001 @ 8:27 AM | ||||
Psychopath Registered: Jan. 01 | I think you should tell her that her sister FUCKS Better that should change the subject. :O Remember don't sweat the petty things and don't pet the sweaty things | ||||
Dryblood
| posted on 04-19-2001 @ 8:34 AM | ||||
O&A Board Regular Registered: Sep. 00 | crx girl to bad there arent more girls out there like u. It's a message in blood It's your cryptic warning Within the message in blood Marks the years of pain, And your godforsaken ending to life - Pantera | ||||
pinknips | posted on 04-19-2001 @ 9:55 AM | ||||
Psychopath Registered: Sep. 00 | Hey Tot if you don't ever plan on getting laid again by all means make her feel like what she has chosen for her life is not as difficult to achieve as yours. When you love someone it is not supposed to be a competion. I personally think both of you must be extremely intelligent and focused so does credit amounts or the amount of money you get paid matter in the least. Just a thought but maybe the two of you need to sit back and realize that both of you have a lot on your plate right now and deserve an equal amount of credit. I have never been in a relationship where where I have been made to feel inferior and if I were to be that's when I would walk... I would hide all her shoes if you still plan on being "emotionally retarded". | ||||
spitfire421 | posted on 04-19-2001 @ 9:55 AM | ||||
O&A Board Regular Registered: Dec. 00 | I'd probably be pretty pissed too, but that depends...LOL My boyfriend thinks it's great that he makes the same as I do even though I schlubbed though college, but that's just a running gag between us (and someday, I'll make more than him hahaha) Anyway, yours was definitely a "yes, dear" moment...How long have you been together? It's just not worth a dumb fight or you hurting her feelings... If she's under a lot of stress right now, just either make dinner for her or take her out to a nice restaurant; that will make everything more gooder :) no-one ever tends to me. Sitting alone covered in breeze. Some things are so my mind can breathe. The waiting is hard, fuckin' takes so long. Draped in sun, hands in sand. Earth acid cleanses me. It cleanses me clean, but the world it never comes(Kyuss, Space Cadet) | ||||
Grumpy SAGILLID The Midget Message Board Mauler rides his trusty mount Wilbur once again!! Internet Idiots beware!! | posted on 04-19-2001 @ 10:31 AM | ||||
O&A Board Veteran Registered: Dec. 00 | Hey red - where the hell ya been? What fucking difference does it make who's doctorate or master's is harder? The point is that both of you are trying to better your education and that in itself needs to be respected by the other. If you want to make it a contest then tell her that your dick is bigger than hers and that you can pee standing up. That should shut her up for a while. Or at least confuse her enough to leave you alone..... ;) Contact me if you want to be adopted. I'll teach you to think 'Outside the Box'. 000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000 011110001100110000001100000000110000111000011 010001001100110000001100000001001000111100011 010000101100110000001100000010000100110110011 010000101100110000001100000010000100110011011 010001001100111111001111110001001000110001111 011110001100111111001111110000110000110000111 000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000 | ||||
MashedPotatohead NIGGA PLEASE! All the bitches in here are crazy!!Froy> | posted on 04-19-2001 @ 10:39 AM | ||||
O&A Board Regular Registered: Oct. 00 | quote: UMMMM..I'm a potato Not to be mean or anything, but no matter what sort of advice we offer, it will be of no use to you until you get off your high horse. I've read your post more than a few times and everytime I do, all it reeks of is you trying to rationalize your way of thinking. Does it REALLY matter which one is a more difficult curriculum? If you care for someone, does it matter what they do or will do for a living? I bet you the next time a fight..argument occurs, this very subject will come up. The sooner you get over this the better. I have met you at one of the gatherings, you seem like a cool dude..but get over this. Just be glad you found someone you get along with. Sig Pic Under Construction | ||||
Mr. Brownstone | posted on 04-19-2001 @ 4:24 PM | ||||
O&A Board Regular Registered: Dec. 00 | Health care professional checking in: Working with patients is much more difficult and challenging than working with inanimate computers. Go fuck yourself. Life's a gas, Life's a gas, Life's a gas, a gas, oh yeah Life's a gas, Life's a gas, Life's a gas, a gas, oh yeah So don't be sad 'cause I'll be there Don't be sad at all ---Joey Ramone. | ||||
weinie | posted on 04-19-2001 @ 7:23 PM | ||||
Psychopath Registered: Oct. 00 | Your a tool for putting down your woman's career. Listen up ass f. Whoever you are dating does not belong with a dick like you. Who the hell are you to put down her ambitions? I am a senior technology manager in a very large bank and I have pocketed more money in my last bonus then you are ever going to see in your life with a comp. sci. degree. (And it wasnt even my major). If you want to earn money, get your fucking mcse and work your way up to the top. I know people in my firm with no college degree with 10x more practical knowledge than PhDs about computing. So, learn comp sci because you love it, not for the $, cause you wont see it. And tell your woman to dump your sorry ass. | ||||
SFShield | posted on 04-19-2001 @ 7:32 PM | ||||
Psychopath Registered: Feb. 01 | That's stupid. It shouldn't even be an issue in your relationship. -My boss is an f'n tool- -Official host of the wookie pool party- | ||||
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